Personally,
I feel that one of my strengths in communicating is that I am very open-minded
as I can talk to anyone about anything under the sun. I love to interact with
people especially strangers as I find joy in making new friends. By
doing so I will be able to start a new journey with them and also know myself
better. An analogy would be a girl going down to the dance floor and survey how
much attention she could get to know her self-worth or market value. I love
having heart to heart talks with anyone under the sun as it acts like a
reflection process to me. Another strength in communication would be being a
good listener. Stories make me ponder and like a sponge, I absorb every bit of
information from the speakers. Through these stories, I am able to learn and gain vicarious experiences, without having to
physically go through them myself. Yet I would know the outcome and even the
precautions to take when I encounter such events.
However,
my strength can be posed as challenges too. Being equipped and exposed to these
experiences, sometimes I feel that I am actually “entertaining” my friends when
they share their common stories with me. This is because right after I know
what they are implying or suggesting I already relate to their stories and
already know how to advise, console or react to their actions. This way even
before they could finish their stories, I would have made some assumptions which
is rude. Thus, the challenge is I would have to constantly remind myself not to
do make assumptions before the speaker finishes his story. Another challenge is
that I feel after years of experiences in the sales and marketing industry, being
overly convincing and having
a magnitude of influence, I tend to manipulate others, sometimes even
without me knowing. Thus I have to constantly remind myself to put myself in
the shoes of others. However most of the time I face a dilemma: what if my
decision and the results are for my audience’s own well being but he could not
see the it? Should I still enforce it or let him regret only when he finally
realised? For me, I am the type of person that I would rather you hate me now,
than to go against my morals and let you be. An example would be during a
gym session, I confronted someone to correct her form as she was doing her
squats wrongly. Maybe to her, I should not have done that as it does not
concern me or thinks I am flirting with her. But I would rather she hate me for
intervening and misunderstanding me than to allow her to be inflicted with a
lifetime injury. Sometimes though such incidents I would find out that it is me
who has the wrong form, thus I was able to correct and improve myself.
Today,
during the lesson, when discussing the topic on “meaning are words”, I thought
of the example of person 'B' scolding person 'A', person 'A' should not react
by scolding him, but understand that he is angry and at that point of time,
words are not the real meaning whereas the reason behind his actions are. It
struck me that being a hot-tempered person myself, I always fail to react
appropriately. Thus, one of the objectives I would like to achieve towards the
end of this module would be understanding and decoding others’ messages in as
many perspectives as I can in the shortest amount of time, before my body or
rage takes over my mind. All
this while, I thought it was because of anger management but maybe it is
because the message conveyed is unclear which leads to misunderstandings. Another
objective would be to broaden my perspective and learn with an open heart. Thus
I hope to be able to contribute as much as I could in class, to be able to induce thinking so
that my classmates would be able to learn as much as I learnt from them.
Lastly, I would like to end this post with this quote below, which I find very meaningful.
Communication is hard to come by these days as we are living in a world where
technology is very advanced. Wherever we go, we will be seeing everyone on
their cell phones, living as a ‘phubber’, playing games or scrolling through
social media. The opportunity to sit down with your love ones and focus on what
they have to say requires so much effort. Most of the time, it is only possible
after a certain degree of argument or reprimanding by their love ones. Nevertheless,
to have an effective communication I feel that mutual respect plays a huge
factor, wanting and having to communicate means world apart. Without the mutual
respect, the audience would not be willing to listen, and the speaker would not
keen to share as much. Communication that inspires, encourages people are
always the best to me as I believe everyone at any point of time would need
some form of motivation and seek help or escape the reality.
Thank you, Eugene, for this detailed reflection on your communication strengths and challenges and the goals you have set for this module. In this post you start by providing a fine introduction to communication, using an original analogy to demonstrate the complexity of interpersonal communication. You follow that with a description of your interest in other people and their stories, which you explain as the basis for your joy in communicating.
ReplyDeleteYou also honestly describe a couple challenges for you that you illustrate with relevant examples. Once again these examples are clear and concrete, allowing the reader to grasp the essence of your ideas.
In the last section you explain what you would like to achieve by the end of the module and how you see special value in broadening your perspective as the basis for refining the nature of communication skills. This is all very interesting.
I look forward to getting to know you better this term.
Sorry for the late reply and also thank you for such motivating comment. I chose to use an original analogy as I feel that being able to open is very important, especially when I am going through this module. If I don't open up and stretch my hands, nobody would be able to help me or aid my change no matter how much they try. Therefore I should be the one who take the first step out to accept help.
DeleteI hope to know you better too! Also, thank you for the comments you have given to me and my group. It was very useful and I love that you emphasis that this module should help us in our lives and not only within the lessons only.